If you’ve been abused by a boyfriend you need to get out of the relationship so he can get help before something worse occurs. Staying with someone who’s abusive is sadly common- often because the victim feels a sense of false guilt and compassion for the abuser. But staying with someone who’s abusive rarely ever helps them deal with their problem. Staying with an abuser often affirms that the abuse is no big deal and that it’s normal for relationships.
Leaving an abuser is hard but necessary. It helps the victim find hope and value with someone who they can talk to about the wrong way their boyfriend has treated them. It helps the abuser see they need to get help for the criminal activity they’ve used in the relationship. Abusers often have been abused themselves and need to talk to someone about why they have bent up anger.
If you’re struggling with this issue and need someone to talk to please click the ‘chat with a SoulMedic” button at the top of the page. By keeping your issue a secret you are giving it power to destroy your life while it spreads as a cancer into your thoughts, actions, and relationships. Isolation is the worst way to live a full life, because it convinces a person that no one needs to know, that no one really understands, and ultimately, that no one really cares. That’s not true! Life on life community is the best way for a person to flourish in their understanding of self, others and God. However, when we spend all our energies protecting our secret from the world this mindset can create an independence stronghold that feels true but is a lie really killing you from the inside out.