All posts by Clinton Faupel

No One Understands

It’s easy to get isolated and feel alone. Although our world is the most wired and connected society ever, it’s increasingly clear that technology doesn’t always provide the nurture and care every human deserves. But what happens when we get in the way and begin to form a worldview that cycles around isolation?

“No one understands” is a phrase I know I’ve said many times. And if I think about why I said it it generally orbits around me not having the strength or courage to try and get help. In fact, if I’m honest, I usually say this when I’m lazy and sinking into apathy. But worse yet, by saying this, I’m perpetuating my downward spiral into isolation and loneliness. In short- I’m causing my own destruction.

Of course, mental health is about the health of our mind. If we’re healthy then we’re able to make good decisions that profit us. But it’s we’re mentally ill we make bad decisions and those decisions can pile up and make things even worse – to a point where we can’t see the hope that lies all around us.

There are people who understand your situation. But you need to share the struggle for them to know you need the help. Why not bring it up with a friend or trusted adult sometime today?

At RemedyLIVE we have people available 24 hours a day to listen to your story so you know you’re not alone. To have a chat with us, just click the “click here to chat with a SoulMedic” button at the top of the page and let us know what you’re going through. We want to understand.

You Are Loved: Messages on a Mirror

I read the email a second time. An invitation to come interview the artists backstage at the K-Love Fan Awards? Heck yes!!
I already knew what I wanted to ask. And what I wanted to bring.
When the time came, my husband and I packed up a huge, beautiful mirror and some window markers. Then we got in our hatchback and drove the 15 hours to Nashville, TN. 
As the K-Love Fan Awards took place, we got to pull aside 12 of the artists and ask them this question: “If your younger sister was struggling with self-worth, what would you want her to know?”
They shared their thoughts, and then wrote a word or phrase on the mirror and signed their names.
Today we want to share their beautiful answers with you–their messages on our mirror. From TobyMac to John Crist, Tauren Wells and Jasmine Murray, these people captured a beautiful picture of just how much God loves us, even when we feel anything but lovable.
Tiffany Dawn
Author & Motivational Speaker


Social Media Anxiety

A large item contributing to social media anxiety is the compare-and-despair factor; that is, doctored pictures of friends on a vacation in Mexico seems to make your Dairy Queen-filled weekend pale in comparison, which in turn can lead to unsettling anxiety.

Do you spend hours scrolling through your Instagram feed looking at what everybody else is doing? Do you feel your chest tighten as you see pic after pic, but don’t know why?

This is what experts are calling social media anxiety. Your brain has become trained to look at the images you see through social media apps and, whether you do it consciously or not, you’re comparing your situation to theirs. Obviously most people scroll through the socials when they’re by themselves so this creates a further pressure that others are “having fun” or “with people” and you’re all alone. But of course… it’s all an illusion.

Images that are posted do not indicate the 24/7 lifestyle of an individual. In fact, a great majority of people that do post online only upload images of the good, and not the bad. But when you or I see their images we don’t connect those dots. We only believe that their life is great and don’t do the mental math to acknowledge that their struggles just don’t make it online. It’s here, in the moment of silence and isolation, that you and I convince ourselves that our life is not as good as theirs, and that we don’t have the friends or fun that others have. Sometimes we might even believe that we have been left out of the social circle on purpose, which creates even deeper problems of anxiety and depression.

It’s important during these kinds of experiences that we share these feelings with someone who can see what’s really happening. Why not take a few minutes and let us here at into your world to talk about this? All you need to do is click the “CHAT NOW WITH A SOULMEDIC” banner at the top of this page.

Social media is NOT a real representation of society. It’s a mirage that can convince us of things that are simply not true. Don’t let those lies affect your future- chat with us now.

What Is A Friend?

What is a friend? Seriously… all around us we have been convinced that people who follow us on social media or use us to get what they want are friends, but are they really? Ancient wisdom teaches us…

Proverbs 18:24 (NIV)

24 One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin,
    but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

Have you ever considered what it looks like to have a friendship for the long haul? I mean a friend that really cares. I define a friend as:

Someone who’s committed to me for more than just the short term gain- they’re committed for the long haul.

By long haul I mean they want me to succeed in life, not just today at school, or at a weekend party, or worse yet- because I might help them out with some selfish desire. A friend is someone who will help me make wise choices and even tell me when my decisions are not in my LONG TERM best interest. A friend who one cares about me only for today or is using me for some alterer motive is not really a true friend.

Think about it. Do your friends want you to finish life well? Graduate? Start a family? Be a grandparent one day? Seriously! Do they truly love you? Studies show that friends can either alter your future decisions for good or doom your decisions to destruction. So choosing a friend is a really big deal. In fact, it begs the question-

Do I choose my friends or do they choose me?

Here are a few questions to consider:

  1. Do your current friends care about what will happen to you if you make a bad decision?
  2. If you asked your friend(s) to keep a promise about a secret, even though the secret might cause you harm, are they really a friend that cares about your long term health?
  3. How many of your friends care about you only because of certain “conditions” that you fill for them?
  4. If you could create the perfect description of a friend, what would it be?

Life is so much more than the day you just lived. It’s more than the year that’s gone by. In fact, life is about the line between your birth and your death, and in order for us to live a full life we need to have the kinds of friends who care about our REAL well being, not just the short term gain.

If you’re struggling with good friends will you give us the opportunity to be one? Click the “CHAT NOW WITH A SOULMEDIC” button at the top of the screen and let us know your thoughts on the true definition of friendship.

Peer Pressure Sexting

According to a study done by Northwestern University more than two-thirds of girls ages 12 through 18 say they had been the victims of peer pressure sexting.

Many girls find themselves pressured to send images to guys who ask. In a sexualized world it seems the default choice is always set on whatever’s more taboo. But the choice to send a nude image from one’s smart phone is hardly about a sexual experience- it’s about trusting that the image sent won’t end up on the screen of someone able to cause pain for the sender.

The most common thing that happens with sexting is the infamous break up. Boy likes girl – boy asks girl for pic- girl sends pic – relationship sours – and they break up. And the revenge game begins – and often the pics are send as blackmail – or sometimes even sextortion -when someone uses something, like pics, to force another person to do inappropriate things.

But what about peer pressure sexting? Is it possible that one can feel the pressure to send nude images from those around them, regardless of dating, sexuality, and the birds and bees? Could a friend bring the pressure? How about a group of friends? We know media is already doing this – right?

If you’ve ever sent a pic, or been pressured to do so, you may be feeling like the world’s closing in. But this is your life- and making a choice to show someone something as intimate as your body can really damage the core of one’s identity – like a piece of your heart is stolen.

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Lonelier Than Before

Depression can leave you feeling lonelier than you were before – before the thoughts started chewing at your mind driving you crazy, causing you to do things that you wouldn’t normally do like self-harming, doing drugs, and having sex. Doing anything to make the hole in your chest go away or to fill up on its own. I feel these unhealthy habits limit us from talking to anyone. I’m going out on a limb here, but I think it’s safe to say that some teens would rather deal with depression in their own way, not liking what happens when we tell our parents or friends what’s been going on. We automatically feel that medication and multiple therapy appointments will be what our lives will consist of.

From my experiences with depression I can tell you every day will seem like the biggest struggle of your life. It leaves you feeling tired, alone, and anxious. I’m no doctor or psychiatrist, but I am strong believer in talking your feelings out. It may seem too difficult or shameful to talk through this rough patch in your life, but that’s just it, it’s just an obstacle on your journey in becoming the better you. I know it seems quite odd but God works in mysterious ways and if I’m allowed to say, I would say God sometimes works in the most confusing, but helpful, ways. I’m not sure if you reading this is a believer of Jesus, but I would like to say that no matter what you go through you will always get through it with Him. // Written by Kia J

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