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You Are Loved: Messages on a Mirror

I read the email a second time. An invitation to come interview the artists backstage at the K-Love Fan Awards? Heck yes!!
 
I already knew what I wanted to ask. And what I wanted to bring.
 
When the time came, my husband and I packed up a huge, beautiful mirror and some window markers. Then we got in our hatchback and drove the 15 hours to Nashville, TN. 
 
As the K-Love Fan Awards took place, we got to pull aside 12 of the artists and ask them this question: “If your younger sister was struggling with self-worth, what would you want her to know?”
 
They shared their thoughts, and then wrote a word or phrase on the mirror and signed their names.
 
Today we want to share their beautiful answers with you–their messages on our mirror. From TobyMac to John Crist, Tauren Wells and Jasmine Murray, these people captured a beautiful picture of just how much God loves us, even when we feel anything but lovable.
Tiffany Dawn
Author & Motivational Speaker

 

Social Media Anxiety

A large item contributing to social media anxiety is the compare-and-despair factor; that is, doctored pictures of friends on a vacation in Mexico seems to make your Dairy Queen-filled weekend pale in comparison, which in turn can lead to unsettling anxiety.

Do you spend hours scrolling through your Instagram feed looking at what everybody else is doing? Do you feel your chest tighten as you see pic after pic, but don’t know why?

This is what experts are calling social media anxiety. Your brain has become trained to look at the images you see through social media apps and, whether you do it consciously or not, you’re comparing your situation to theirs. Obviously most people scroll through the socials when they’re by themselves so this creates a further pressure that others are “having fun” or “with people” and you’re all alone. But of course… it’s all an illusion.

Images that are posted do not indicate the 24/7 lifestyle of an individual. In fact, a great majority of people that do post online only upload images of the good, and not the bad. But when you or I see their images we don’t connect those dots. We only believe that their life is great and don’t do the mental math to acknowledge that their struggles just don’t make it online. It’s here, in the moment of silence and isolation, that you and I convince ourselves that our life is not as good as theirs, and that we don’t have the friends or fun that others have. Sometimes we might even believe that we have been left out of the social circle on purpose, which creates even deeper problems of anxiety and depression.

It’s important during these kinds of experiences that we share these feelings with someone who can see what’s really happening. Why not take a few minutes and let us here at RemedyLIVE.com into your world to talk about this? All you need to do is click the “CHAT NOW WITH A SOULMEDIC” banner at the top of this page.

Social media is NOT a real representation of society. It’s a mirage that can convince us of things that are simply not true. Don’t let those lies affect your future- chat with us now.

What Is A Friend?

What is a friend? Seriously… all around us we have been convinced that people who follow us on social media or use us to get what they want are friends, but are they really? Ancient wisdom teaches us…

Proverbs 18:24 (NIV)

24 One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin,
    but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

Have you ever considered what it looks like to have a friendship for the long haul? I mean a friend that really cares. I define a friend as:

Someone who’s committed to me for more than just the short term gain- they’re committed for the long haul.

By long haul I mean they want me to succeed in life, not just today at school, or at a weekend party, or worse yet- because I might help them out with some selfish desire. A friend is someone who will help me make wise choices and even tell me when my decisions are not in my LONG TERM best interest. A friend who one cares about me only for today or is using me for some alterer motive is not really a true friend.

Think about it. Do your friends want you to finish life well? Graduate? Start a family? Be a grandparent one day? Seriously! Do they truly love you? Studies show that friends can either alter your future decisions for good or doom your decisions to destruction. So choosing a friend is a really big deal. In fact, it begs the question-

Do I choose my friends or do they choose me?

Here are a few questions to consider:

  1. Do your current friends care about what will happen to you if you make a bad decision?
  2. If you asked your friend(s) to keep a promise about a secret, even though the secret might cause you harm, are they really a friend that cares about your long term health?
  3. How many of your friends care about you only because of certain “conditions” that you fill for them?
  4. If you could create the perfect description of a friend, what would it be?

Life is so much more than the day you just lived. It’s more than the year that’s gone by. In fact, life is about the line between your birth and your death, and in order for us to live a full life we need to have the kinds of friends who care about our REAL well being, not just the short term gain.

If you’re struggling with good friends will you give us the opportunity to be one? Click the “CHAT NOW WITH A SOULMEDIC” button at the top of the screen and let us know your thoughts on the true definition of friendship.

Peer Pressure Sexting

According to a study done by Northwestern University more than two-thirds of girls ages 12 through 18 say they had been the victims of peer pressure sexting.

Many girls find themselves pressured to send images to guys who ask. In a sexualized world it seems the default choice is always set on whatever’s more taboo. But the choice to send a nude image from one’s smart phone is hardly about a sexual experience- it’s about trusting that the image sent won’t end up on the screen of someone able to cause pain for the sender.

The most common thing that happens with sexting is the infamous break up. Boy likes girl – boy asks girl for pic- girl sends pic – relationship sours – and they break up. And the revenge game begins – and often the pics are send as blackmail – or sometimes even sextortion -when someone uses something, like pics, to force another person to do inappropriate things.

But what about peer pressure sexting? Is it possible that one can feel the pressure to send nude images from those around them, regardless of dating, sexuality, and the birds and bees? Could a friend bring the pressure? How about a group of friends? We know media is already doing this – right?

If you’ve ever sent a pic, or been pressured to do so, you may be feeling like the world’s closing in. But this is your life- and making a choice to show someone something as intimate as your body can really damage the core of one’s identity – like a piece of your heart is stolen.

If you ever need to talk about this, our 24/7 chat center is always available. Just click above on the “CHAT NOW WITH A SOULMEDIC” banner at the top of the page to have an anonymous conversation.

Your life matters – let us know how we can help.

New Year, New You?

New Year’s resolutions are common to many, but if you want my opinion, I haven’t found that making a resolution on January 1st is the magic formula. Resolutions aren’t bad, because it’s always a good idea to look at one’s self and try to figure out if there are things in a person’s life that needs to be changed. But the idea of new year, new you? If only it were that easy.

Let’s start with a simple project of self awareness. Get a piece of paper, or a device to type on, and begin to answer this question:

What people, circumstances, or things are keeping me from living a full life?

And here are the rules while doing this: get it all out. Move past emotion, move past guilt, and look beyond allegiances you’ve build because of time spent with some of these people.

You need to be as objective as possible.

What people in your life are toxic? Are there any people that you need that may be unhealthy for you? An example is a boyfriend that abuses you verbally but you pretend that’s “just the way he is.

What things in your life are escapism vehicles? Food, painkillers, porn? Some people use shopping or technology as an escape. These are generally things that we think help us but often imprison us by creating a unhealthy dependance.

Lastly, what circumstances are in your life that are causing you to orbit around defeat? Are you in a work environment where your co-workers curse the world around them? Is your family so dysfunctional that your potential to live a full healthy life is sucked into their black hole?

After you get your list together, why not chat anonymously with us here at RemedyLIVE.com so we can help you unpack what’s holding you back from living a full life? Just click the “CHAT NOW WITH A SOULMEDIC” banner at the top of the screen to begin a conversation. It’s 100% free and it’s our privilege to hear your story.

You were created for so much more than you can ever imagine. Let us help you make some resolutions that can make an eternal difference with your future and your one and only life.

Lonelier Than Before

Depression can leave you feeling lonelier than you were before – before the thoughts started chewing at your mind driving you crazy, causing you to do things that you wouldn’t normally do like self-harming, doing drugs, and having sex. Doing anything to make the hole in your chest go away or to fill up on its own. I feel these unhealthy habits limit us from talking to anyone. I’m going out on a limb here, but I think it’s safe to say that some teens would rather deal with depression in their own way, not liking what happens when we tell our parents or friends what’s been going on. We automatically feel that medication and multiple therapy appointments will be what our lives will consist of.

From my experiences with depression I can tell you every day will seem like the biggest struggle of your life. It leaves you feeling tired, alone, and anxious. I’m no doctor or psychiatrist, but I am strong believer in talking your feelings out. It may seem too difficult or shameful to talk through this rough patch in your life, but that’s just it, it’s just an obstacle on your journey in becoming the better you. I know it seems quite odd but God works in mysterious ways and if I’m allowed to say, I would say God sometimes works in the most confusing, but helpful, ways. I’m not sure if you reading this is a believer of Jesus, but I would like to say that no matter what you go through you will always get through it with Him. // Written by Kia J

To chat more about this topic or learning how to follow Jesus, click the CHAT WITH A SOULMEDIC banner at the top of the page.

 

Who Is Beckah Shae?

In the video above Beckah Shae shares the highs and lows of here life. If you’€™re struggling with an issue and need someone to talk to please click the ‘€œchat with a SoulMedic” button at the top of the page. By keeping your issue a secret you are giving it power to destroy your life while it spreads as a cancer into your thoughts, actions, and relationships. Isolation is the worst way to live a full life, because it convinces a person that no one needs to know, that no one really understands, and ultimately, that no one really cares. That’€™s not true! Life on life community is the best way for a person to flourish in their understanding of self, others and God. However, when we spend all our energies protecting our secret from the world this mindset can create an independence stronghold that feels true but is a lie really killing you from the inside out.

RemedyLIVE is committed to a conversation with you. As a faith based organization we believe the best way to carry out our mission is to serve all of His creation regardless of their gender, race, sexual orientation, religion or age. Jesus calls us to love Him and love others because God created everyone – even those who don’€™t believe He exists!
If you are struggling right now it’s important to talk with a trusted adult and try to remove yourself from that situation. We here at RemedyLIVE would love to help in any way we can. Chat anonymously online with one of our SoulMedics today by clicking the CHAT banner at the top of the page OR text the number 494949 within the United States. We are available to listen to you 24/7. We chat. We listen. We love.

Men and The Fight Against Binge Eating

Imagine a teenage boy and his friends going out to eat after a late Friday night football game. He scans the menu to order a large plate of wings, and scarfs them down with no hesitation. The boy returns home feeling full of food and regret. He looks into the mirror acknowledging he’€™s put a few more pounds then he would have liked. Believe it or not there are males who struggle with an eating disorder.

At home, he turns on the television to watch finely tuned athletes with sculpted physiques displaying feats only professionals can perform. He wishes to be like them, but knows he is limited to only what he can since he is overweight. His self-worth sinks. Later at football practice, he has trouble keeping up with his teammates in the drills and workouts. He puts in more work hoping to see results sooner rather than later. He begins to question whether or not he will ever lose the weight. How much is enough? Can he still enjoy the foods he loves? He thinks, “Will I ever get to the weight I want?”

The coaches yell and scream, demanding more and more, but ultimately make him feel worthless. This continues into the locker room as fat jokes, in addition to names from his teammates are thrown his way. Fatty. Jumbo. Tubby. He can’€™t leave soon enough.

In order to escape his problem, he finds comfort in the snacks at home. He realizes the food he is eating is only adding to the problem and he can’€™t find control. He feels shame overcoming him. The boy thinks when he gets the ‘€œperfect body,’€ all his issues will simply go away.

A common misconception in our society is that body image is only a struggle for women. According to the National Eating Disorder Association (NEDA), 40% for people who struggle with binge eating are male. The Alliance for Eating Disorders Awareness found that men who have an eating disorder suffer from depression, low self-esteem, feelings of worthlessness and self-loathing, and other harmful traits.

Here at RemedyLIVE we know how a secret struggle can cause harm in one’s life. We know the thoughts of wanting to be better and changing the way you look and feel. There is comfort in God because of his eternal love that will never forsake us. He is the creator and makes no mistakes. He loves you for who are. You can talk with a SoulMedic on our 24/7 chat, or you can text ‘€œREMEDY’€ to 494949. Chat with us today.

It’s Easy To Keep Secrets

Secrets. It’€™s easy to keep secrets.  Life moves fast, things happen- sometimes you get disappointed- sometimes let down. Pressure to fit in, ACHIEVE, look good, BE GOOD. It all adds up – and sometimes the way we cope can be less than ideal. A secret struggle can be depression untreated, abuse or addiction unspoken, self harm hidden, or a suicide plan left to grow in isolation.  At RemedyLIVE our goal is to provide hope that the secret struggle doesn’€™t have the final say on a person’€™ future.  That by sharing that struggle one is far more able to experience hope in the midst of pain – to take small steps of courage out of isolation to arrive at a new place of peace – one that shows you you’€™re not alone. Share the secret struggle. Don’€™t carry the weight. Talk to someone today.

We’€™re RemedyLIVE – we chat, we listen, and we love.

If you or someone you know is struggling with a secret that is causing them pain, it’s important that you get the struggle out by talking to a trusted adult who can help you take the next steps you need to get the help you deserve.

Sometimes we believe that we’re too far gone, or that nothing can ever make things better- but that isn’t true. Help is just a sentence away if you can muster the courage needed to share the secret struggle that is keeping you in isolation from the community you need. Your life is too valuable, too important – and perhaps you’ve allowed the voices in your head to convince you that no one cares.

If you’re struggling with self harm, being abused, or thinking of suicide, it’s very important that you don’t believe you’re all alone- there are people who want to help you right now in our RemedyLIVE chat center. Chat with us today!