We all want to feel accepted. We all want to belong. So why does it hurt so much when we’re rejected by people? Well, it may seem obvious, but the truest reason it hurts is because we were created by God for community. We were created to be in the company of people who care for us, look out for us, and want the best for us. When people avoid that or tell us to hit the road it attacks the heart of our deepest desire – to be accepted.
In a sad way, we can never fully count on people to accept us all the time. Humans are generally self centered and not usually considerate of those around them. But God, who’s always present, is only a prayer away. “Come near to God and he will come near to you.” With God’s presence we can always say, “I’m feeling accepted.”
If you’re struggling with this issue and need someone to talk to please click the ‘chat with a SoulMedic” button at the top of the page. By keeping your issue a secret you are giving it power to destroy your life while it spreads as a cancer into your thoughts, actions, and relationships. Isolation is the worst way to live a full life, because it convinces a person that no one needs to know, that no one really understands, and ultimately, that no one really cares. That’s not true! Life on life community is the best way for a person to flourish in their understanding of self, others and God. However, when we spend all our energies protecting our secret from the world this mindset can create an independence stronghold that feels true but is a lie really killing you from the inside out.