Over the past 10 years self harm has become a sad and confusing way for people to deal with long term pain while using a short term escape. If you cut, burn, pick or hurt yourself to feel better about difficult or anxious situations, you know all too well that self harm, is a momentary escape that does not provide a long term healthy solution. Every episode of crisis or struggle is rooted in a deeper life issue, usually a trauma from years before that created a stronghold of emotional secrecy. As an example, you might have a fight with a parent or go through a tough time and because of the heightened anxiety, you wish to hurt yourself to release the tension within. That tension is based on years of build up from denying the trauma of a childhood event or secret from your past. When one deals with the past, and forgives the person or people who’ve hurt them, they can begin to move away from self harm as a bandaid to deal with the real injury of their soul- deep internal pain.
If you’re struggling with this issue and need someone to talk to please click the ‘chat with a SoulMedic” button at the top of the page. By keeping your issue a secret you are giving it power to destroy your life while it spreads as a cancer into your thoughts, actions, and relationships. Isolation is the worst way to live a full life, because it convinces a person that no one needs to know, that no one really understands, and ultimately, that no one really cares. That’s not true! Life on life community is the best way for a person to flourish in their understanding of self, others and God. However, when we spend all our energies protecting our secret from the world this mindset can create an independence stronghold that feels true but is a lie really killing you from the inside out.