No one should be pressured to have sex. If you’re in a relationship with someone who makes you have sex then get out! Sex in a dating relationship changes the reason why you’re in the relationship. Sex skews rational thinking, making it hard to see things like compatibility, healthy communication, and whether the person you’re dating really cares about you or just cares about getting satisfied sexually. Sex does not equal love.
But as Levi Mitchell reminded us-
1 Corinthians 13: 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
If you’re struggling with this issue and need someone to talk to please click the ‘chat with a SoulMedic” button at the top of the page. By keeping your issue a secret you are giving it power to destroy your life while it spreads as a cancer into your thoughts, actions, and relationships. Isolation is the worst way to live a full life, because it convinces a person that no one needs to know, that no one really understands, and ultimately, that no one really cares. That’s not true! Life on life community is the best way for a person to flourish in their understanding of self, others and God. However, when we spend all our energies protecting our secret from the world this mindset can create an independence stronghold that feels true but is a lie really killing you from the inside out.