The decision to have sex on the first date is almost always a time bomb that will destroy the potential for the relationship to succeed. When the bar is set at the physical, meaning, that the person you’ve dated is nothing more than a sexual encounter, then the chance of seeing the person, and even seeing yourself, as anything more is very unlikely. The precedent has been set and moving ahead with developing good communication, mutual respect, and a deeper trust is nearly impossible. Sex always clouds one’s judgement before a marriage covenant has been made and often becomes the greatest point of regret when that’s all that the relationship is based on.
Here’s a few questions to ask yourself:
- Do you place value on getting sex from someone or value meeting someone special?
- Do you define sex as something you “get” versus what sex was created for?
- Do you have a long term plan on what baggage you might collect by living with a respect for sexuality?
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