When someone hurts you, betrays you, or does something to another – how do you forgive? And why would you? Why doesn’t it make more sense to hate someone who hurt you? Doesn’t it show weakness to let someone off the hook when all they deserve is condemnation?
Well- yes – revenge is something that movies, music, and media says should be served with wrath and hate – but the truth is… when you choose to keep someone in a prison cell of grudge and bitterness, you keep them, rather than release them.
Forgiveness isn’t for the person who’s hurt you, forgiveness is for the one who’s been hurt. It frees them from having to relive the pain each time they think about the incident. It frees them from believing that the past dictates the future. And most of all – it frees them from believing that bitterness and hate is better than giving hurtful situations to God to judge and deal with.
Forgiveness cuts the chain between the two involved – opening the future up to healing and the hope for a better life. Unforgiveness is like a snowball rolling down a hill – it grows bigger and damages whatever’s in it’s path.
If you’re struggling with this issue and need someone to talk to please click the ‘chat with a SoulMedic” button at the top of the page. By keeping your issue a secret you are giving it power to destroy your life while it spreads as a cancer into your thoughts, actions, and relationships. Isolation is the worst way to live a full life, because it convinces a person that no one needs to know, that no one really understands, and ultimately, that no one really cares. That’s not true! Life on life community is the best way for a person to flourish in their understanding of self, others and God. However, when we spend all our energies protecting our secret from the world this mindset can create an independence stronghold that feels true but is a lie really killing you from the inside out.