Controlling girlfriends aren’t so different than controlling boyfriends. But they seem to get a lot more attention as being a nag, being a bother, and being baggage. To be controlling is to be someone who feels their way is the best way, and sometimes, the only way. But if you look deeper into the issue, a controlling person generally has little control at all. They feel out of control, that no one cares, and that if they don’t exert their voice, they may get forgotten all together. When someone is controlling the issue what really needs to be investigated is who are you, how do others see you, and most of all – what are you afraid of… really?
Fear is an indicator that one lacks faith. Faith in self, in others, but mostly faith in God. If you are a controller, or know someone who is, you will often fear failure and the idea of having faith that God has leadership over your life – something that will have devastating ripple effects into other areas of one’s life.
If you’re struggling with this issue and need someone to talk to please click the ‘chat with a SoulMedic” button at the top of the page. By keeping your issue a secret you are giving it power to destroy your life while it spreads as a cancer into your thoughts, actions, and relationships. Isolation is the worst way to live a full life, because it convinces a person that no one needs to know, that no one really understands, and ultimately, that no one really cares. That’s not true! Life on life community is the best way for a person to flourish in their understanding of self, others and God. However, when we spend all our energies protecting our secret from the world this mindset can create an independence stronghold that feels true but is a lie really killing you from the inside out.