What is a friend? Seriously… all around us we have been convinced that people who follow us on social media or use us to get what they want are friends, but are they really? Ancient wisdom teaches us…
24 One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin,
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Have you ever considered what it looks like to have a friendship for the long haul? I mean a friend that really cares. I define a friend as:
Someone who’s committed to me for more than just the short term gain- they’re committed for the long haul.
By long haul I mean they want me to succeed in life, not just today at school, or at a weekend party, or worse yet- because I might help them out with some selfish desire. A friend is someone who will help me make wise choices and even tell me when my decisions are not in my LONG TERM best interest. A friend who one cares about me only for today or is using me for some alterer motive is not really a true friend.
Think about it. Do your friends want you to finish life well? Graduate? Start a family? Be a grandparent one day? Seriously! Do they truly love you? Studies show that friends can either alter your future decisions for good or doom your decisions to destruction. So choosing a friend is a really big deal. In fact, it begs the question-
Do I choose my friends or do they choose me?
Here are a few questions to consider:
- Do your current friends care about what will happen to you if you make a bad decision?
- If you asked your friend(s) to keep a promise about a secret, even though the secret might cause you harm, are they really a friend that cares about your long term health?
- How many of your friends care about you only because of certain “conditions” that you fill for them?
- If you could create the perfect description of a friend, what would it be?
Life is so much more than the day you just lived. It’s more than the year that’s gone by. In fact, life is about the line between your birth and your death, and in order for us to live a full life we need to have the kinds of friends who care about our REAL well being, not just the short term gain.
If you’re struggling with good friends will you give us the opportunity to be one? Click the “CHAT NOW WITH A SOULMEDIC” button at the top of the screen and let us know your thoughts on the true definition of friendship.