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Social Media Anxiety

A large item contributing to social media anxiety is the compare-and-despair factor; that is, doctored pictures of friends on a vacation in Mexico seems to make your Dairy Queen-filled weekend pale in comparison, which in turn can lead to unsettling anxiety.

Do you spend hours scrolling through your Instagram feed looking at what everybody else is doing? Do you feel your chest tighten as you see pic after pic, but don’t know why?

This is what experts are calling social media anxiety. Your brain has become trained to look at the images you see through social media apps and, whether you do it consciously or not, you’re comparing your situation to theirs. Obviously most people scroll through the socials when they’re by themselves so this creates a further pressure that others are “having fun” or “with people” and you’re all alone. But of course… it’s all an illusion.

Images that are posted do not indicate the 24/7 lifestyle of an individual. In fact, a great majority of people that do post online only upload images of the good, and not the bad. But when you or I see their images we don’t connect those dots. We only believe that their life is great and don’t do the mental math to acknowledge that their struggles just don’t make it online. It’s here, in the moment of silence and isolation, that you and I convince ourselves that our life is not as good as theirs, and that we don’t have the friends or fun that others have. Sometimes we might even believe that we have been left out of the social circle on purpose, which creates even deeper problems of anxiety and depression.

It’s important during these kinds of experiences that we share these feelings with someone who can see what’s really happening. Why not take a few minutes and let us here at RemedyLIVE.com into your world to talk about this? All you need to do is click the “CHAT NOW WITH A SOULMEDIC” banner at the top of this page.

Social media is NOT a real representation of society. It’s a mirage that can convince us of things that are simply not true. Don’t let those lies affect your future- chat with us now.

What Is A Friend?

What is a friend? Seriously… all around us we have been convinced that people who follow us on social media or use us to get what they want are friends, but are they really? Ancient wisdom teaches us…

Proverbs 18:24 (NIV)

24 One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin,
    but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

Have you ever considered what it looks like to have a friendship for the long haul? I mean a friend that really cares. I define a friend as:

Someone who’s committed to me for more than just the short term gain- they’re committed for the long haul.

By long haul I mean they want me to succeed in life, not just today at school, or at a weekend party, or worse yet- because I might help them out with some selfish desire. A friend is someone who will help me make wise choices and even tell me when my decisions are not in my LONG TERM best interest. A friend who one cares about me only for today or is using me for some alterer motive is not really a true friend.

Think about it. Do your friends want you to finish life well? Graduate? Start a family? Be a grandparent one day? Seriously! Do they truly love you? Studies show that friends can either alter your future decisions for good or doom your decisions to destruction. So choosing a friend is a really big deal. In fact, it begs the question-

Do I choose my friends or do they choose me?

Here are a few questions to consider:

  1. Do your current friends care about what will happen to you if you make a bad decision?
  2. If you asked your friend(s) to keep a promise about a secret, even though the secret might cause you harm, are they really a friend that cares about your long term health?
  3. How many of your friends care about you only because of certain “conditions” that you fill for them?
  4. If you could create the perfect description of a friend, what would it be?

Life is so much more than the day you just lived. It’s more than the year that’s gone by. In fact, life is about the line between your birth and your death, and in order for us to live a full life we need to have the kinds of friends who care about our REAL well being, not just the short term gain.

If you’re struggling with good friends will you give us the opportunity to be one? Click the “CHAT NOW WITH A SOULMEDIC” button at the top of the screen and let us know your thoughts on the true definition of friendship.

Peer Pressure Sexting

According to a study done by Northwestern University more than two-thirds of girls ages 12 through 18 say they had been the victims of peer pressure sexting.

Many girls find themselves pressured to send images to guys who ask. In a sexualized world it seems the default choice is always set on whatever’s more taboo. But the choice to send a nude image from one’s smart phone is hardly about a sexual experience- it’s about trusting that the image sent won’t end up on the screen of someone able to cause pain for the sender.

The most common thing that happens with sexting is the infamous break up. Boy likes girl – boy asks girl for pic- girl sends pic – relationship sours – and they break up. And the revenge game begins – and often the pics are send as blackmail – or sometimes even sextortion -when someone uses something, like pics, to force another person to do inappropriate things.

But what about peer pressure sexting? Is it possible that one can feel the pressure to send nude images from those around them, regardless of dating, sexuality, and the birds and bees? Could a friend bring the pressure? How about a group of friends? We know media is already doing this – right?

If you’ve ever sent a pic, or been pressured to do so, you may be feeling like the world’s closing in. But this is your life- and making a choice to show someone something as intimate as your body can really damage the core of one’s identity – like a piece of your heart is stolen.

If you ever need to talk about this, our 24/7 chat center is always available. Just click above on the “CHAT NOW WITH A SOULMEDIC” banner at the top of the page to have an anonymous conversation.

Your life matters – let us know how we can help.

New Year, New You?

New Year’s resolutions are common to many, but if you want my opinion, I haven’t found that making a resolution on January 1st is the magic formula. Resolutions aren’t bad, because it’s always a good idea to look at one’s self and try to figure out if there are things in a person’s life that needs to be changed. But the idea of new year, new you? If only it were that easy.

Let’s start with a simple project of self awareness. Get a piece of paper, or a device to type on, and begin to answer this question:

What people, circumstances, or things are keeping me from living a full life?

And here are the rules while doing this: get it all out. Move past emotion, move past guilt, and look beyond allegiances you’ve build because of time spent with some of these people.

You need to be as objective as possible.

What people in your life are toxic? Are there any people that you need that may be unhealthy for you? An example is a boyfriend that abuses you verbally but you pretend that’s “just the way he is.

What things in your life are escapism vehicles? Food, painkillers, porn? Some people use shopping or technology as an escape. These are generally things that we think help us but often imprison us by creating a unhealthy dependance.

Lastly, what circumstances are in your life that are causing you to orbit around defeat? Are you in a work environment where your co-workers curse the world around them? Is your family so dysfunctional that your potential to live a full healthy life is sucked into their black hole?

After you get your list together, why not chat anonymously with us here at RemedyLIVE.com so we can help you unpack what’s holding you back from living a full life? Just click the “CHAT NOW WITH A SOULMEDIC” banner at the top of the screen to begin a conversation. It’s 100% free and it’s our privilege to hear your story.

You were created for so much more than you can ever imagine. Let us help you make some resolutions that can make an eternal difference with your future and your one and only life.

What is Stigma?

 

The Merrian-Webster dictionary defines Stigma as, a mark of disgrace or infamy. Now a prevalent example I can think of is, let’s say you do drugs and you don’t tell your friends because you’re afraid of how you will be judged, either positively or negatively.

 

The Stigma behind Mental health would be you having a mental health disorder and you being scared to come out because you fear how society will judge you. In order for us to move forward we must break this Stigma. Ways we can do this is create awareness, educate and recognize depression as a terminal illness.

 

Why do we need to create awareness and educate, simply because many people don’t know that mental health is as big of a problem as it is. They don’t know that 1 in 4 people will struggle with mental health and people need to know this is so important. It pains me to hear that tens of thousands of people lose their beautiful lives because of a Stigma.

 

Society needs to recognize depression as a terminal illness. Depression kills it has killed many people and will continue to kill many people.

 

I challenge you to go out there and inform people and break the stigma. To break the stigma we have to see communities come together and love everyone because without each other we have nothing. If you’d like to know more please contact me at [email protected]

If you are struggling right now it’s important to talk with a trusted adult and try to remove yourself from that situation. We here at RemedyLIVE would love to help in any way we can. Chat anonymously online with one of our SoulMedics today by clicking the CHAT banner at the top of the page OR text the number 494949 within the United States. We are available to listen to you 24/7. We chat. We listen. We love.

 

 

 

 

Lonelier Than Before

Depression can leave you feeling lonelier than you were before – before the thoughts started chewing at your mind driving you crazy, causing you to do things that you wouldn’t normally do like self-harming, doing drugs, and having sex. Doing anything to make the hole in your chest go away or to fill up on its own. I feel these unhealthy habits limit us from talking to anyone. I’m going out on a limb here, but I think it’s safe to say that some teens would rather deal with depression in their own way, not liking what happens when we tell our parents or friends what’s been going on. We automatically feel that medication and multiple therapy appointments will be what our lives will consist of.

From my experiences with depression I can tell you every day will seem like the biggest struggle of your life. It leaves you feeling tired, alone, and anxious. I’m no doctor or psychiatrist, but I am strong believer in talking your feelings out. It may seem too difficult or shameful to talk through this rough patch in your life, but that’s just it, it’s just an obstacle on your journey in becoming the better you. I know it seems quite odd but God works in mysterious ways and if I’m allowed to say, I would say God sometimes works in the most confusing, but helpful, ways. I’m not sure if you reading this is a believer of Jesus, but I would like to say that no matter what you go through you will always get through it with Him. // Written by Kia J

To chat more about this topic or learning how to follow Jesus, click the CHAT WITH A SOULMEDIC banner at the top of the page.

 

Attempt To Make A Change

Kurt Cobain. Robin Williams. Chester Bennington. All three men followed different paths throughout their lives, but ultimately had similar endings. These men all tragically took their lives – they did not commit suicide.

Referring to the act of taking one’s own life as ‘committing’ is incorrect. The Oxford Dictionary defines the word commit as a pledge or bind to a certain course or policy. When an individual kills himself or herself, they are not pledging to anything. They simply want the hopelessness to disappear.

By looking at the tragic end to Robin Williams’s life, we were able to finally witness the true emotions experienced by the comedic legend.  To many, Williams seemed like a genuinely happy person whose bright personality shown through with every character he portrayed.

Kurt Cobain and Chester Bennington were musicians who brought joy to the lives of their fans.  They both did so much to enrich those around them, but sadly some will not remember who they were as people.  These remarkable individuals will forever be remembered by some as people who took their own life – placing a black mark on their history.

Oftentimes, people who are struggling tend to settle for the short-term solution, the only option they see fit – taking their own life. The only way for me to feasibly explain depression is by describing it as a constant uphill battle, with each attempt at reaching the top ultimately ending in yet another slip up.

With that, I want to challenge people to be cautious and think before referring to this act as ‘committing suicide.’ There is too much negative connotation associated with the aforementioned phrase.  Alternatives such as ‘died by’ or ‘attempted’ convey more positivity and acceptance.  It is important that the loved ones of those who take their own lives do not feel as if they did something bad or wrong, but rather understand the reasoning behind the actions.

Suicide is not a crime. Victims of suicide just want their difficulties to go away. Every life deserves dignity and respect, even those that ended prematurely.

If you are struggling right now it’s important to talk with a trusted adult and try to remove yourself from that situation. We here at RemedyLIVE would love to help in any way we can. Chat anonymously online with one of our SoulMedics today by clicking the CHAT banner at the top of the page OR text the number 494949 within the United States. We are available to listen to you 24/7. We chat. We listen. We love.

 

I Can’t Escape Anxiety

Do you ever worry? About money, school, grades, acceptance, maybe even relationships. Getting yourself so overwhelmed while you think about every potential outcome. Overthinking EVERYTHING until the loudest voice in your head is panic repeating itself of ‘€œwhat if.’€ You know that constantly thinking about whatever it is wont change the outcome; you wish you could just release it and finally get

No Need For Anxiety some sleep. You lay awake at night thinking about it sometimes you maybe even dream about it. Your anxiety is preventing you from completing daily activities and keeps you from enjoying experiences. You see what it is doing to you and you want it to stop, but you don’€™t know how to release it or where to start. Sometimes the anxiety can build up so much so fast that it feels out of control and you might start to feel like you are alone. As if you are fighting these worries all by yourself. But you aren’€™t.

Here at RemedyLIVE we care. We know the heaviness of anxiety and panic and we are here to help. We chat, we listen, and we love.

If you or someone you know is struggling with feeling overwhelmed or anxious, it’€™s important that they get the struggle out by talking to a trusted adult who can help you take the next steps you need to get the help you deserve.

You’€™re never alone and your life is so valued. Sometimes it just takes the courage to open up to someone about how you are really doing. What you are struggling with and how you are feeling. As humans we all long to be known, because when we feel known and supported, difficulties in our lives become less intimidating. We have people who want to hear you out and help you right now in our RemedyLIVE chat center. Chat with us today!