The 30-day
HOW ARE YOU REALLY?
Challenge:
Have eyes to see. Set a goal to get out of your own head and see the people that life brings your way.
Ask the question “How are you?”, to 3 different people each day. If they respond with “fine" or "good" then ask "No seriously, how are you really?”
Make eye contact. Assure them through your eyes that you see them, and that you are actively listening to their response.
Be aware of your countenance. Is your resting face one of compassion and empathy or judgment and disinterest?
Don't have your smartphone visible. Reassure them through unspoken communication that they have your full attention.
Actively listen. As they pause in their response to your question, sum up their statement with, so I hear you saying…
Steward their confession. It's a privilege to hear how someone's really doing so thank them for their transparency and make a note on your smartphone to thank them at a later time for their willingness to trust you.
Be a safe space. When you have these types of conversations keep them confidential and don't share with others what you hear.
Reciprocate the transparency. When appropriate, or when asked, share how you are truly doing in a succinct and appropriate way, answering questions as they come.
Have ears to hear. Pay attention to your own words as they exit your mouth and enter your own ears to change your own mind. Confession is good for the soul and a transparent community brings healing to those who struggle in isolation.