No One is Coming to Save You

When I was younger, I was extremely motivated. I set goals for myself. I accomplished those goals. I set new, tougher milestones and was inspired and motivated to overcome them. As I grew older, life grew harder. I graduated high school, then college, then moved away to a new town. I developed bad habits now that I was solely responsible for my own meals and fitness. My new job was a slower pace than school had been, and I was in a field that was different from my major. 

I got to a point where I didn’t know how to pull myself out of the trenches. Setting goals was easy, but feeling motivated to complete them was not. People around me seemed to be living their best lives while I was left in the dust. I wished and wished that someone would notice. That a colleague or acquaintance would step up and say, “Let’s do this together. Come under my wing. I know the way.” 

Instead, I had someone speak a very hard truth into my life, “No one is coming to save you.” 

It sounds harsh. Trust me, it felt harsh. But they explained, “Only you can choose to make the right decisions for yourself each day. No one is going to call when you pick up that unhealthy snack and tell you to put it down. No one is going to text you to get out of bed in time for work, or to work out, or to make breakfast, or to read that book you’ve been wanting to. You have to make those decisions for yourself. Every day. No excuses. It’s only up to you.” 

And they were right. One day of feeling motivated and meeting those goals is great, but inevitably we hit a day where it feels too hard. We want to give up. We say, “I’ll do it tomorrow.” It’s a wish that someone will walk into our lives and suddenly keep us motivated or share the secret to living our best life. It’s hard, but only we can do it by making the tough decisions over and over each day until they become habit.

That’s the secret! Personal accountability and self-discipline. If you have people in your life that you can ask for help, do it! It will make it easier, but it’s still up to you to make the change. No matter how old you are. No matter what stage of life you’re in or the ways that you may be failing yourself. You can step up and make a change. No more arguing with yourself or making up excuses why you can’t today. Decide to do it. Motivation is not required. As they say in Frozen II - Do the next right thing.

Challenges/Points:

• Write down 2 goals that you can set for yourself.

• If your goals feel big, write down smaller action steps you can take each day to complete them. 

• Do you have someone you could share these goals with, so that they may be able to help you stay accountable?

Questions:

• What are ways you would like to be or do better in your life? 

• What has been keeping you from doing better? 

• Can you decide, right now, to stop waiting for someone to make your goals happen for you and to begin working on them yourself? 

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